relationships

Today I want to talk to you about relationships. I haven't dated very many guys but I like to think that every guy has taught me something. I didn't start dating until I was seventeen. If there is one piece of advice I can tell you is, wait until you are older to date. I can not imagine dating at like twelve or thirteen like kids do nowadays.
The first guy I dated taught me the pain of heartbreak. I remember how bad the first heartbreak hurts. But the next time, it won't be so bad. The first heartbreak taught me to be stronger.
The second guy taught me you shouldn't force a romantic relationship. You can't force chemistry, no matter how hard you try.
The third taught me a lot. He bandaged my emotional wounds. He taught me how to love again, that feeling wasn't a sign of weakness. There was days I would just cry and cry and he would hold me close. Sadly he stopped being that person. Instead of building me up, he started tearing me down.
He taught me that people change, especially when we are young. He taught me that relationships require effort from both people. You shouldn't ever feel like you are alone in a relationship.

Each relationship I've been through has made me realize we learn from our past relationships to better ourselves for the future one we meet. Not every relationship is about finding the one. It's about getting to love someone and touching their lives, because at one point in time, they were who we needed.

To love and be loved is the greatest gift.

"We love because He first loved us." 1 John 4:19


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